How to cope with Christmas

Many people ask me how to cope with Christmas. For someone with an eating disorder, Christmas is hell wrapped up in a day and secured with ribbon: food at every turn and a massive meal to try and fit in… an anorexic’s worst nightmare.

But it doesn’t have to be that way.

Believe it or not, Christmas is NOT about food. It is about a little boy being born into the world as a saviour, and as such, it is about family, it is about sharing, it is about love. You are not going to be living with an eating disorder for the rest of your life, but you are going to have Christmas for the rest of your life. So DON’T make Christmas anorexic/bulimic etc.

Instead, accept that while you’re ill, you are going to have to change Christmas a bit. The most important thing is that you are relaxed and happy and this is not going to happen if you are filled with guilt about the food you’re eating. So, just while you are ill, arrange with those you are sharing Christmas with to have what feels ok for you, even if it is exactly the same as you have on a normal day. This way, you will feel relaxed and will be able to focus on and enjoy the true values of Christmas: sharing, love, family and Christianity. For example, when I was ill, I couldn’t cope with eating at odd times, and so instead of a late lunch, my family changed it so we had our Christmas meal at the time I would normally have my dinner, and I didn’t have to have all the trimmings, so again, I could mentally cope with the meal. This year, everything is back to normal meal wise, how it always used to be, it is only the church, presents and people who have remained the same, and always will.

Don’t forget what Christmas is about. Desocciate from food, and instead think of it as a chance to see who you are, what your values are, and what you want to be with you for the rest of your life. I want to bet the answers are friends and family, not your eating disorder.

All my love, a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year J

Anna-Katharina xxxxxxxx